Where does today’s more “anything goes” attitude leave etiquette? Given the pressures of modern life, more in demand than ever! – Emily Posts Etiquette.
“Courtesy,” “civility,” “manners” culminate to what we know as etiquette – the right way to speak and act anywhere you may find yourself. As much as it seems like we live in a time where people just don’t care, we do what we like, whether our actions or speech is agreeable or not. Still, if you think about it, when has being considerate in your dealings with others ever gone out of style?
Due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others regardless of their background, race, or creed.
Careful not to inconvenience or harm others. As the Golden Rule says: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Skill and sensitivity in dealing with others and difficult, sensitive issues.
Inasmuch as people continue to push the boundaries and display shockingly rude behaviors, – sometimes out of ignorance. People don’t usually know when they cross the line – you don’t have to continue to stay in the party. Now you know better and so you have to do better.
True, some people are blessed with natural charm. Still, the art of proper conversation, which in the long run, will prove rewarding in building relationships at company functions, social events, work environments, can be learned.
Below, we provide some guidance on proper conversations from Emily Post’s Etiquette
Don’t be the nosy-pecker
Unless the person at the receiving end of the conversation is family or close friend, steer clear of these conversation bloopers.
How much do you earn?
Can’t you have children?
Are you pregnant?
Are you getting a divorce?
You look lean, have you been sick?
Don’t be a bad gossip
Women bond over gossip – according to Tannen for Irish Times, “Gossip has a bad rep, which gives women a bad rep. Often, and more commonly, people talk about each other’s lives without putting them down: just talking about. This kind of gossip reflects an interest in other people’s lives, exactly what lies at the heart of academic disciplines like anthropology, sociology and psychology. Being interested in a friend’s personal life is a show of caring; a way to create closeness. There is of course, such a thing as “bad” gossip, where women talk against others”.
Personal space much
Listen don’t interrupt
Don’t stare. Don’t point
Our parents told us don’t stare/point because it’s rude, but I’m sure they didn’t explain in deets why it’s rude, did they?
Don’t horn in
I was today years old when I learned this one. Honestly, I thought when they can’t find the word, just help them. I am sorry. I am sorry to all the people I do this to.
“Do you know who I am? Do you know who I am connected to? My father is…” We meet these kinds of people all the time.
WANT MORE STORIES LIKE THIS? SIGN UP HERE FOR OUR NEWSLETTER TO GET OUR STORIES AND EXCLUSIVE UPDATES STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX.