Hey, Before You Call Yourself Depressed. Are You Indeed Depressed Or You Are Just Sad?

Hey, Before You Call Yourself Depressed. Are You Indeed Depressed Or You Are Just Sad?

The way a lot of young people use the term depressed over everything these days, we have to ask this question.

Depression is real. It is terrible, agonizing, and not something you wish on your enemy.

Most people go through it at least once in their life. BUT – there is a but – before you call yourself depressed, are you sure you are dealing with depression, or you, are just momentarily sad?
The symptoms – depression, and sadness- are so similar, it’s hard to tell them apart. I know.

Still, please hear me out.

The situation of things, in general, has been ‘one kine(upsetting)’. The inflation is not helping, coupled with the mini stressors that accompany each day.

However, the way I see more and more young people affirm depression, it gives me cause for alarm. I was talking with a friend the other day, and I told him that people don’t use the term sad anymore – depressed has replaced the lingo.

And why?

Depression is too serious a condition to be trifled with. If indeed you are battling depression, then what you need is help. However, if you do not have depression, why do you call it into your life?

I am sorry but, I am that girl that believes “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” Proverbs 18:21. Don’t talk carelessly.

Let us delve into what depression is, what sadness is, and how to know you are dealing with depression.

I had to dust my research goggles, people, for clarity’s sake!


Sadness is an emotional state characterized by feelings of unhappiness and low mood. It is considered one of the basic human emotions. It is a normal response to situations that are upsetting, painful, or disappointing. Sometimes these feelings can feel more intense, and in other cases, they can be fairly mild – VeryWellMind.

Sadness varies in intensity and duration, according to Dr. Williamson. But a defining feature is that it is a temporary feeling. “Eventually, it fades and ultimately resolves. If sadness continues to intensify, does not eventually fade, or lasts for a prolonged period, you should seek support from a mental health professional because depression is a possibility.”

Sadness can develop into depression when not checked.

Sadness can last for a season – I want you to know that you can feel sad, low for two days, for a week, and have bouts of sadness for months over an unpleasant event or news without you being depressed.

Come on, say you’ve recently lost a loved one, no one expects you to be prancing excitedly all over the place. It’s perfectly normal to be overwhelmed. It’s normal to feel like you want to die too, it’s normal to lose weight, it’s normal to sleep for hours, to cry, but as each day rolls by, the pain begins to fade, the ache dulls. And the memory is no longer as painful.

But you see the problem? Nowadays, it is increasingly common to randomly walk up to someone who is having a bad day -life- and ask what’s wrong? And expect to hear something like, “oh, I am so depressed over that missed that opportunity.” “The food they serve makes me depressed. I won’t be traveling for the holidays, this is the reason why I am depressed”. And then something good arrives, like good food, and they exclaim, “Oh thank you, Jesus!”. You could just see their face light up at that moment.

Depression is a clinical condition that has many physical symptoms and is something that can be quite disabling.

It is considered a serious medical condition that can get worse without proper treatment. Merely being unhappy, sad, grieving, or even demoralized is not the same thing at all. The latter conditions do not respond to antidepressants in the least, while depression does. 

Unlike sadness, you can’t snap out of depression when there’s a change of circumstances. For example, a depressed person may win a million-dollar lottery and still be depressed. However, a sad person will win that same amount and jump all over the place. The reason why they were unhappy in the first place becomes inconsequential – most of the time.

These are the signs of depression:

  • Loss of appetite with excessive loss of weight
  • Lack of interest in sex
  • Low energy, even when not physically active.
  • Loss of sleep despite feeling exhausted. Sleep is typically restless and unsatisfying with early morning wakening (one to two hours earlier than usual). Some people, however, may actually sleep a lot more than usual.
  • Slowed activity and speech.
  • Feeling worthless
  • Low self-esteem
  • Believing there’s no reason to keep on living
  • Suicidal thought
  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain
  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering, and/or making decisionsPersistent sad, anxious, or “empty” mood
  • Feelings of hopelessness and/or pessimism2
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and/or helplessness

Any of these may serve as warning signs of depression. You need to exhibit at least five symptoms to be suffering from a depressive disorder.

If you are still like I am depressed/sad, what does it matter? It does.

  1. If you are depressed, don’t sit at home. Seek medical care.
  2. You are undermining the condition for those who truly deal with it.
  3. You are what you speak.

Visit mentalhealthstatusng for more resources that will help you or anyone you know dealing with depression.

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