What’s Your Coping Mechanism On A Bad Day? Stick It Out Straight faced Or Have Your Moment?

What's Your Coping Mechanism On A Bad Day? Stick It Out straight faced Or Have Your Moment?

Bad days = Challenges. Avoidable mistakes. Loss. Bad mood. Fall through expectations – the list is endless. Phew. 

Imagine waking up bright and glowy and looking forward to the best the day has to offer. First you login to check if that mail you have been expecting has finally landed. In fact, it has. Your heart in your mouth, you click open, and your eyes skim over the first few words and it’s not good “Dear … (dash dash dash) We appreciate… but we are sorry…” Hope deferred truly does make the heart sick – Proverbs 13:12 KJV.

As trying as a bad day can be(sometimes it stretches for daysssss, months, and even into seasons), we can’t do away with it. We can’t just decide not to have them anymore. A friend said, “No matter how hard you try, you can’t try hard enough to live life unscathed.” *thanks Jerry* It really resonated with me because I am this kind of person that tries as much as possible to play it safe. I have always played it safe. Because I believe the less reckless and more intentional I am about my choices, the fewer mistakes I make, and the less hurtful situations I get into. 

Ask me how this has turned out? I have still had to crawl out of devastating positions – clearly, I can’t be too careful. The book of Ecclesiastes 3:2: A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; time to weep, and a time to laugh; the time to mourn, and a time to dance; to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away…

The best you can do is understand the season you are in and make the best of it. Manage your emotions, take control of your thoughts, engage in earnest self- love(even when it is difficult), find a community, and hold on to the word.

Proverbs 24: 10: If thou faint in the day of adversity, Thy strength is small.

I had a talk with a few of our guys about their rebound strategy after a setback(mine is sleep). I realized that one way or the other through self-awareness, we have been able to figure out what gets us back up on our feet every time we take a hit.

Keep reading to learn more about the routines that help these guys get through a bad day.

Take a really long walk

“Like a really long walk with my headphones on. It gives me the space to think and face the reality of the situation, lay my cards on the table, and figure out my next move. I am someone that doesn’t smoke or drink or engage in unhealthy habits to pull myself together. Walking is therapy for me. If I am faced with a problem that feels beyond me, I pray and ask God for strength. Once I have done this, I look ahead and try not to dwell on the setback.”

I get myself occupied to take my mind of the situation

“I have to be up-and-doing. Get swamped in activities that there’s no space to wallow. I also make sure to surround myself with a company of friends all the time. If I slip and, I get sucked in, I am unable to do anything for days. I am a mess.” 

Pray and study the word

“I deal with pain by praying to God about it. When I get into his presence, I just cut it loose. However, if I find that I still struggle, I would study God’s word, or I discuss my issues with a brother.”

I have learned to deal with disappointments by understanding that there is only two reality; Yes/No

“It does not pass like that, and I don’t take it personally. I keep moving, on the lookout for the next big shot.”


“Allow me to sleep for 24hrs(not entirely a whole day but..) straight. When I wake up, I would have the stamina to face that challenge.”

There are things you can do when you feel unhappy

Give yourself permission to feel like crap

Feeling like crap is normal and instead of hating the feeling, you could actually embrace it and allow yourself wallow in pity-party(don’t overdo it though). Let’s face it, when was the last time you had a really good cry with hiccups and all – ages ago. I know this sounds weird but this bad day, mood, disappointment, is a good excuse to get all that stress, and pet up emotions washed out. You will feel better.

Check your gratituide journal

If you don’t already have one what are you waiting for? Read this article The 5 Types of Journals We Absolutely Live By. Going back to your gratitude journal will remind you of all the wonderful things that have happened for you in the past, the amazing miracles God has done and it will give you the strength to keep believing.

Check the word

You have probably had moments where you were in dire need and picked up your bible. Interestingly the first scripture your eyes fell upon was just what your soul needed? Right or Right?

The word you need is waiting for you in the bible you have refused to pick up.

Be with people who make you feel good

And people you know who won’t make you feel worse by saying the wrong things.


Take the opportunity to rest. I know, I know you are thinking, ‘I can’t rest. This is the time to get up and grind more. I have to improve. I have my plate full, I need to be up-and-doing. You are only resting not quitting. Okay? So before you get back to your hustle can you just spare some time and indulge in a favorite past time, tantalize your taste buds, hit the gym, watch a movie, hangout – you have to understand that there is power in pressing pause on your life.



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